Be Patient….With Yourself

I have been reflecting on my process of healing over the last few years and was thinking to myself, “man it isn’t over yet?!”. Have you ever felt that way? Sometimes that can just get a sista down a little bit. Today, however, I went a little further and really felt compassion for myself and saw how patience has been a stronghold, even though I always say I’m impatient!

 

It is so important to be patient with yourself. This is especially true for someone that is healing from trauma. There are times when I want so badly to just say, “Hey! I’m done here. I’m completely healed and now my life will be perfect all the time!”. I’m here to say that it just doesn’t work that way and sometimes it is really hard to come to terms with the process of healing.

 

I know that today I am so far away from the moments where I wanted to leave this earth, where I cried, “why me?!” day in and day out. Where I just couldn’t see the sun come up in the morning beaming it’s sweet warmth on my face. I’m so happy to say that today, I can walk outside to see and feel her beauty, to bask in how she shows me that life is worth living.

 

 

But honey! The road to feeling the sun is one that requires compassion for yourself, patience in being okay with the fact that it will take time to peel away the layers of protection that we’ve put on. I see the process as a tree.

 

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You start with the trunk, addressing the very foundation upon which we grow on and heal the wounds that were created. Once your trunk is strong, vibrant, knows who she is as a survivor, as a resilient woman of life, then come the branches…these are the seemingly smaller issues that come up. This can include some of the beliefs, the behaviors, the thoughts that come up that may or may not belong to you but definitely find it’s core in your main wound. This is when patience really needs to kick in as we can have many branches! It is important to remember that we are a spiritual being living this human experience and this human experience is dynamic!

 

So….let’s be patient. Let’s honor how far we have come and look forward to what is to come….the sun shining oh so bright!

9 Comments on “Be Patient….With Yourself

  1. #truth So true. Today I was feeling very much in the flow of life and remembered “Its not always going to be this easy”. Ebbs and flows. Without the hardship we would never know the joy of harmony.

    • The joy of harmony…love that. Remembering that as much as we can help us weather the storm a little better. Wonderful that you are in the flow of life! Soak it up πŸ™‚

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  2. I started reading this and thought WOW! what a validation to what I am feeling today. Last week was thinking “Oh I think I will scale back on my therapy” and then….HUGE TRIGGER at work. So this is me reinvesting and exhaling with Infinite Love and Gratitude for the process and myself. <3

    • Yes! Reinvest and exhale with Infinite Love and Gratitude, what a way to have compassion for yourself and your process. Sometimes we just need that extra support and work. Glad you found the post validating!

  3. Thank you, goddess Evelyn for your sweet sharing of your blog. I enjoyed your using the tree for description….different yet similar scenarios: a friend talks of her layers of patience as a tree. Layers and layers and layers.. so many opportunities for times of healing to be interwoven into these and the patience to be reflected upon in times of ebb

    • Love the similar scenario! Another great way to see the process of healing and patience as a tree. I love how we can connect our human experience to nature in some way…nature shows us…Love you sweet Meredith.

  4. Hello Evelyn, everything looks good. Heard work, and dedication. I am proud of you. I pray to God to give you the desires of your heart. And open the door of Success for you..
    Stay strong and be blessed. ❀️😘
    Helen

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